Dance Moms Season 3 Episode 10 recap: Loves Me, Loves Me Not

So I went on a little fact-finding mission this weekend, Dance Moms faithful. I actually attended a three-day dance competition. Applause Talent’s regional dealie in Madison, Wisconsin, where my beautiful niece competed with her studio, Ignite Dance. Here are some of the things I learned.

There are way too many dances at these things. I have no idea how the judges keep who’s who and what’s what straight from solo No.1 to large group No. 403. I suspect it has something to do with the tablet computers in front of them. And the little microphones into which they jabber incessantly while the dancers dance. But Lordie. Also, we do not dance in anything that remotely resembles the order in the $10 program. We just have that so we can follow along comes awards time.

We were at a gigantic high school, but the dancers were still crammed into every practice and get-ready space that they could find. They mostly got along splendidly. All of the moms I saw had on jeans or yoga pants and I didn’t see any fancy schmancy lighted makeup mirrors, but I didn’t look in every room. Otherwise, the rest of that backstage curl and sew and glue and hustle was pretty much right on the money.

I clapped for a lot of dances that came from other people’s studios, too. I’m like that. Girls dressing like boys is a hot theme this season.

Awards take 311 hours. The first 11 hours are spent doing the Wobble en masse which is cute for about 4 minutes and then tiresome, even to the dancers.

The Wobble will stay in your head for a long, long time after you get home.

Everyone’s a winner during the first half of awards. It’s what metal winner you are that matters most. The competition-wide winners are announced second and are sometimes all the same kids, just in different arrangements. Also, that one dance wasn’t really dancing, but it was some entertaining theater, so it won a lot anyway.

I can’t for the life of me imagine doing that every weekend.

But Abby and the ladies can, so let’s get to it.

Even though the group dance won by a wide margin last week, Abby isn’t very happy with it. Most specifically, she is not happy with Chloe, who she says did not do the choreography that was given her, even though I thought this was the Improv Dance of Grief Relief, because Abby was too overcome by the loss of her dog to complete the dance.

And then it’s pyramid time.

Bottom of the bottom is Paige. She needs to work on her face or she’ll never work her way into the judges’ hearts.

Next is Kendall. Abby says her improv did not garner oohs and ahs. Jill says that’s because there was no choreography given. But Chloe just got hammered for not doing the choreography, so I’m guessing, like most of Dance Moms, the truth lies somewhere in between.

Then comes Brooke. Because she is the oldest on the team, Abby wants her to take a leadership role and she just doesn’t do it.

Row two begins with Nia. She’s third on the pyramid because she was third highest score overall. Makes sense. Holly’s all about it.

Then Mack, who got overall high score in the mini division. Did we even see that? I don’t think we did. But I’m sure she was precious.

Top of the top is Maddie who won her age division and did the highest-scoring solo in the entire competition.

Chloe’s punishment soldiers on. She is still not back in the stack.

This week we are going to Bernardsville, New Jersey, home of killer costumes and strong competitors because it is a hair’s breadth from New York, despite its rinky-dink sounding name.

Everyone but Mac is in the group dance which is titled Your Dream Is My Dream … which is the basically the dance we didn’t do from last week … which was called My Dream Will Be Your Dream. Which is what I pretty much suspected would happen. We’ll also be importing a boy for the dance, which makes Maddie looks like this.

Halloooo, puberty!

Mac will be getting a solo called Love is War. Maddie will be doing a solo called Lifeline. Kendall and Nia will be doing a cool, contemporary duet called Dig It. If we have time. Which means that this will be the dance that causes us drama.

Our guest boy dancer will be Nick from a Starpower competition of yore. Didn’t he once go on a date with Brooke, too? To a theme park or something? In any case, we’re all terrifically happy about him.

Brooke and Nick will be the leads in the dream dance, and Maddie is tasked with pretending Brooke is her dying mother. Here’s the rest of the gist: As Brooke is dying, she asks Nick to take care of her daughter Maddie — which turns it into a story of a father and daughter. All the other ladies will be playing local singletons in love with dreamy and responsible Nick.

Upstairs in the mom loft, the mothers are discussing their first loves and how you never forget them and how the girls have yet to experience that. Kelly says hers is not a good memory. Must not be. Look.

Then Melissa happily reminds her that her other other love is dead. But apparently that is still not as sad to Kelly as the fact that she has Randy now. A little digging reveals that Randy is apparently quite a bit older than Kelly and not necessarily a looker, but he fits the good-husband bill by having a nice, big bank account.

Then the mothers happen upon the idea of speed-dating for Abby and hit up Melissa’s tablet for possibilities.

Abby must be feeling the love, too, because after she dismisses the girls, she breaks into a sassy little, booty-shaking dance. Her joie de vivre makes everyone laugh, including Abby.

Jill decides she’s going to take over this operation, so as to make herself and Kendall look like matchmaker rock stars in Abby’s eyes. If Melissa can commandeer the Bye Bye Baby dedication, Jill can swipe mending Abby’s broken heart from group credit. She asks Abby if she wants to go to dinner with her and Abby’s suspect from the start.

Aw, geez. Group dance is beginning and there’s no sign of Chloe and Christi. You’ve been in a big trouble and Abby’s finally in a good mood, so what are you doing, lady?!

When she finally shows up, she blames traffic and looks like an flamenco dancer-meets-bird-meets-origami project. Actually, she kind of looks like Dog the Bounty Hunter in one of his Native American get-ups from the back.

Actually all of the mothers are fancied up, because it turns out we’re all jumping into a limo with spinning disco lights and taking Abby to a speed-dating event at Atria’s. Good to be there. Abby just thinks we’re going to dinner.

Abby’s all about that until she finds out that Christi is coming, too. Then she refuses to participate. Jill breaks the news to Christi, who agrees to leave, but is entirely bitter about it. The other mothers could care less and party on. On the way to the restaurant, they ply Abby with champagne and ask her to describe her dream man. Abby says a worldly, young, George Clooney type who speaks five languages and has perfect teeth. A fondness for dessert is good. Pigeon toes are a total deal breaker.

Then Jill asks her if she’s seeing someone special now and she says yes. Hence, I fully expect her to flip her shizzit when she discovers where we are going, but she’s tickled pink. Special-schmecial — bring on the mens!

Bachelor #1 is Chris, a 33-year-old bartender. Abby wants to know if he owns his own tuxedo. He does. And bonus: He can tie a bow tie. How many times he’s been to Disney World brings him up short. Next!

Next is 40-year-old Karl, who sells insurance. Karl … has gum. Oh oh. But wait! Karl’s mom used to teach dance and own a dance studio. Samesies! Karl has potential but time’s up before Abby can get to her tough questions. The other mothers liked the look of him, though.

Next up is dashing Darryl, who is 52 and a retired former pro football player. Abby comes right out there and tells him she’s never dated a man of color. “You know what they say,” says Karl. Abby stammers and looks under the table. If he has it out in the restaurant for you to see, Abby, you do not want to date him.

By now the mothers have gobs of food to enjoy along with the show. Which is getting good, because Abby is flirting up a storm, batting her eyelashes and telling Darryl she’s a 50-yard-line kind of girl. Before I can even wonder what that means, Darryl asks if she has season tickets and Abby cups her hands around her mouth to secretly shout that she just means she Did It on the 50-yard line. And she is proud.

Yeah, ya are! And now we can all stop wondering about issues of virginity. Got that, Kelly?

Abby compares speed-dating to auditioning — the casting couch, if you will — and says she is right at home doing it. She is pleased with Jill for coming up with this activity.

But not for long. Next day, Abby is super crabby with Nia’s and Kendall’s duet, during which they have to wrangle both a hardhat and a shovel. She dismisses the girls in favor of Maddie, and Jill goes down to “check on” Kendall. What she really does is go down to set up an insta-private with Gia, who just so happens to be free.

Oh, hey. Turns out there’s two sides to the mom loft. And we can see right into the studio during which Kendall and Gia are practicing the duet without Nia. Christi and Holly go on the attack. Jill says she has to do what’s best for Kendall. Christi labels her the consummate stage mom.

In the main studio, the girls are getting their dreamy costumes and Abby reminds that the dance has to be romantic. “Think of me on my last date,” she tells them. The girls looks perplexed. Nick looks disgusted in the way that teenagers will when they think about old people like us getting busy. Abby tells the group her last date was in L.A. and she’s going to get teary because he doesn’t want to  leave L.A. for PA. Not even for her. “I don’t blame him,” hollers someone from off camera. “Shouldn’t he give me a ring?” says Abby, undeterred.

L.A.? Hmmm. Home of Abby’s Ultimate Dance Competition. Manno? Richie Squirrel? Either of you have something to tell us?

Upstairs, the moms seem to know whom we’re discussing, but they’re pretty sure said man is gay. Melissa offers another clue to his identity: He’s a dance teacher. Who were our man choreographers? Ricky Palomino? Nah. Can’t be. Bobby Newberry seems too young, too. Anthony Burrell is a man of color and Abby told Darryl he’d be her first, so can’t be him either. I give up. Maybe we’ll get to meet him someday.

Wowza. The moms are some kind of bitter about marriage. As they watch the girls flit about in their white ballet skirts, Christi cracks, “That’s the irony. When you’re young you dream of the white dress and then when you’re married, you dream of the black one.” Like a widow. Mr. Lukasiak? Mr. Hyland? I’d pour my own drinks and sleep with one eye cracked until further notice.

Competition time.

Since nothing good happens to us in New Jersey, Abby’s all a’jangle. And when Nia starts coughing vigorously, she wonders if Maddie should dance her part of the duet instead. She pulls Jill out into the hall to discuss it, and Jill says she’d rather do the dance as solo than sub Maddie in for Nia. Of course you would, Jill. Abby just shrugs.

Back in the get-ready room, the other mothers discuss how inappropriate it is for Abby to discuss Nia’s health and the state of the duet with Jill, without Holly present. Nia says she’s doing the dance come hack or high water, so case closed.

Time for Mac’s solo. The announcer says we are skipping ahead in our program a little bit, which, with my wealth of newly acquired knowledge, I know is perfectly normal. In some cases, we even skipped entire days, ain’t that right, hip-hop girl who did her solo on Sunday even though Friday was solo day?

Who’s cute? Mac’s cute! And bendy!

She does a great job and is making strides toward Maddie’s skill level at her age, but Abby says she doesn’t use her face enough.

Backstage, Jill ushers Kendall out into the hallway and Gia happens along and says she’ll watch Kendall run the duet real quick. Holly follows Jill out to see what gives, finds out what gives, and goes back to fetch Nia. “I don’t want to miss out on this special lesson,” she quips. You’re fun this season, Holly. I like you the best.

With plenty of spectators looking on, we have the requisite hallway drama du jour, then head back into the get-ready room, where Abby says Jill shouldn’t give a fig what the other mothers say about her trying to get her kid ahead in any way possible. But Jill says they’re finally a team again and they’re staying that way. Riiiight!

Dig It is cute as a button, too, and you’d never know Nia was ailing.

Maddie’s solo is a Maddie solo — flawless. Plus, Maddie is a two-solo winner the last time we were in Jersey, so what could possibly go wrong?

Backstage, the mothers are having a Come to Jesus moment about whether or not they are going to be team for good and ever and knock off the doing things behind each other’s backs. “I didn’t do anything behind your backs,” protests Jill. “I did it right in front of you!”

Oh. Well, then. Christi gives her points for honesty.

Here comes the brides for My Dream Will Be Your Dream. Now that I think about it, that explains the perplexing bride costumes that we were supposed to believe were for the Improv Dance of Grief Relief. Paige says despite all of Abby’s fussing about it, it’s a really clean number and she thinks it will do good. Also, now it’s called Your Dream Will Be My Dream.

It’s very loud and very pretty.

Come awards time, Big Mac gets second in the mini solo division. She’s pretty happy about it. The little chick over there in fourth, not so much.

Yikes. Maddie gets second, too. She’s not nearly as happy about that as Mac.

Duet gets fifth. Jill says the choreography was not a winner.

Well, we’re reasonably consistent anyway — the group gets second, too.

Backstage, Abby is as irritable as a rash. She says that all this love crap was designed to remind the girls of how much they loved to dance, and they didn’t seem to get the point. What Brooke loves is Fritos.

Abby says she doesn’t mean to be mean and nasty, and she doesn’t want to be mean and nasty, and she loves every child as if they were her own. She just doesn’t love what happened out there. And no amount of speed-dating can cure it. Points for trying, Jill. More points for giving us an episode with some humor in it.

Next week, the group does LGBT hip-hop, Vivi joins t-ball and Bic Mac might be fakin’ an injury. So of course, Nia’s the one who gets yelled at.

So what say you, Dance Moms faithful? Was it it kinda fun to watch Abby get her flirt on? Are you rooting for Abby to have a date with Darryl, or is that just me stuck on the 50-yard line? Are the dancers doing the best they can do and perhaps it’s the choreo that’s not getting the judges’ love? And what about Christi’s shirt? Or Jill’s fur shrug? Sound off in the comments section below.

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  1. Lori, the boy who went out on the “date” with Brooke was Brandon, not Nick 🙂 They do look alike though.

  2. I don’t think that Kelly’s husband is that much older than her. Paige has posted pictures of her dad on Facebook and he doesn’t look that old and when I looked it up I found something that said he was 45 which is believable. Kelly will turn 42 this May, so he’s only 3-4 years older than her.

  3. I found it almost as boring as the episode without Christi. Maddie never changes, same ole same ole. I don’t agree that Kensie is “becoming a Maddie”. Kensie is becomeing a Brooke. Kensie clearly adores Brooke, and I suspect Brooke gives her lots of attention, because Melissa could not be bothered. This show has hit the skids and I am so over it. Maddie on top, the rest, Miller hates. ZZZZZZZ Oh, Jill still looks like a pimp, or Sonny Bono back in the day.

  4. I agree with Julie’s comments – I love the show but hate it when Abby meanly yells at the kids. She gets too nasty – I’m surprised someone hasn’t hauled off and hit her. There are other places to obtain professional dance lessons for your kids. She is really way too unbalanced.

  5. If the shows continue along this line…I will probably start watching them live again..right now I DVR and fast forward through any screaming/nasty parts.

    One observations…Maddie is a beautiful dancer but it is the same dance/facial expressions each week just put to different music. Maybe the judges are getting tired of seeing the same thing each time. Even when Abby says it is different…it is the same. I would like to see Maddie truely challenged in a routine…something outside her comfort zone that would truely show what a talent she is. Right now she just seems to be really good at lyrical…

    I feel really bad for Chloe but admire her determination to stick it out. Personally I think she should go to a studio that truely appreciates her talents and a teacher that would nuture that talent.

    Hopefully next week stays on the little more friendly track…

    • @Amy–There is not a doubt in my mind that Abby comes from some kind of troubled childhood. She is WAY too unbalanced, unaware of her hypocrisy, and bitter to have had a happy childhood. I also suspect that during her teen years she was severely ridiculed by a girl who was tall, thin, and blonde. Notice she is WAY harder on Chloe and Paige than any other girl. There has to be some kind of buried-away-memory that causes this.

  6. I loved this episode!!! I know I can always count on your recaps to make me even more excited about the next episode! Yay, Vivi and t-ball is a match made in heaven! Did anyone else notice her playing with a ball made of paper in the big hallway scene in episode 7 this season?

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